Monday, August 31, 2009

fog you / i remember

Four friends, two newly single, set out into the night.

“Tagaytay? Are you sure?”

It was spontaneous. It was crazy (and conveniently cliffy). We didn’t care. It made us happy and it seemed (to the four of us, at least) that happiness was in short supply these past few months.

Deep into the night, we traded stories. One by one, we cursed the cities that bore us- the cities that cradled our heartaches, our disappointments, our defeats. Off we went, 160 kilometers an hour on a half-tank of gas. We didn’t know where we were going exactly. All we knew was we had to flee.

“Just for tonight, let’s be happy!” I said as I popped my head out of the car. I let the cool breeze brush my face. I needed this, I thought to myself. It’s been so long since I last felt this… alive.

“Bakit pa eh pag-uwi naman natin, ganun din ‘yun. ‘Pag patay na lahat ng ilaw at wala ka nang ibang kaharap kundi sarili mo, ganun din ‘yun!” We laughed. Cynicism had become the fifth person in the car.

I fell asleep in the car for a little bit and when I woke up, we were already there. It was hard to see though as a thick fog had settled into the deepest corners of the night.

“San tayo?”

“Kahit saan!”
We all agreed. A few minutes later, we were in a little restaurant that boasted of a fantastic view. We couldn't really appreciate it though because the whole place was so damn foggy. We could hardly see the menu.

“Ayan na yung overlooking niyo. Overlooking sa fog!”

We ate. We laughed. We danced. We took tons of pictures. We caught up. And when all was said and done, we also shed a couple of tears. Deep into the night, the conversation hit a serious note.

“What’s funny is despite everything, I could never bring myself to regret everything that happened.”

“Why should you? It made you happy. Be grateful for the rain. Just don’t be sad when the drought settles in.”

“It’s funny because people keep telling me that I’m better off. If I’m the winner in this game, then how come he moved on first? I’m still stuck here, hoping for some semblance of closure or something.”

“We make our own closures. Life has to go on. I remember when my heart broke. I was hurt. I cried. The next day, I cried again. The day after that, I cried a little more. But each day that passed, I shed less and less tears until one day I realized I had no tears left for him. That’s just how it is. Fix yourself first. Love yourself first before you love anyone else.”

“That’s the thing. People always say that you can’t love someone when you’re broken. I wasn’t broken when I met him. I was 100% solid before everything. But now, I’m completely shattered. I wasn’t broken when I met him. I guess I was just hollow.”


Four friends, two newly single, stared blankly into the night. There was no need for words to be said. Just the fact that we were there for each other at this point in time made all the difference in the world.

“Look. The fog’s starting to clear.”

I stood up and walked towards the balcony. Slowly, a plethora of lights and different sights came into view. I inhaled deeply, let the cool wind fill my lungs. If you wait long enough, everything becomes clear.

We shed our skins in the mountains and made our way back to our lives- back to deadlines and lesson plans and poker faces. As the car maneuvered through the mountain’s steep curves, we howled like wolves and screamed like crazy. It was spontaneous. It was crazy. If I closed my eyes, it felt just like old times.

“So this is how it feels.”

“How what feels?”

“Letting go.”


I smiled as I popped my hand out of the car, reaching for nothing in particular. I played with the wind, felt the tiny hairs at the back of my hand move with it. Something tells me happiness is just around the corner. Something tells me things will work out just fine.

Keyshia Cole
I Remember
Just Like You

15 comments:

  1. love yourself first. it is impossible to understand this unless you are doing it and seems so trite and incomplete when you're there.

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  2. i find the burden in between your words @Nyl. hope it gave you a well deserved breather!

    and 160 mph? thats over 250 kmh!?! (me being kiasu.

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  3. @LOF yeah, i just found it a little funny because someone once made a comment on how i need to fix myself first. as though this was the reason why everything ended. i was like no, that's not why it ended. i was completely fine before all this. haha

    as for the trite and incomplete part, i think it'll all be worth it. babies cry when you wean them. maybe it's a little like that.

    @Ash thanks! it really helped a lot.

    err, oops. hehe wala kasi ako alam sa kotse. edit ko nga. haha

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  4. hello cb, soon enough you'll realize it's all for the best. it's cliche but it's true. really. :)

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  5. it sucks but as des'ree said, time asks no questions it goes on without you. i don't want time to leave me behind so i'm letting go of the past. i left my emo-ness sa tagaytay. i'm going to be happy real soon. :D

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  6. sana may karoadtrip din ako!
    kaso pag estudyante, hanggang antipolo lang...
    overlooking sa antipolo.

    tama!

    ART of LETTING GO?

    kaya yan...
    just look at it in its most positive way...

    gaining back your self.
    your life.

    a happy one!


    :P

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  7. so true.. haha it gets better and better each day. one day, tatawanan ko lang lahat ng kaemohang ito.

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  8. this is nicely written. i'm a fan.

    yeah, it get's better everyday especially with the help of your friends. everything eventually passes and then when it comes, you'll know. just always remember, things, no matter how f*cked up it is, happens for a reason and most of the time it brings growth. don't fret, fix yourself and then move forward. because you're gonna have to, eventually, anyways. :)

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  9. may mga memories din ako sa tagaytay at dahil sa galing mong magsulat, minulto uli ako ng mga alaala. choz!

    nice to know you are doing fine and having fun. :)

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  11. @Max wow. thanks. i'm a fan of your work too. :D as for the fixing, yeah totally agree. i'm not hurrying though. i don't wanna rush para wala nang relapses. everyday, it gets better and better.

    @Aik it's the best thing to do.

    @Aris thanks for the compliment. :D minulto ka ba? tawag tayo ng pari. haha

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  12. hehehe tama sila. someday pag naisip mo 'yung problema na nadaanan mo na tatawanan mo na lang at marealize mo na hindi pala ganun ka bigat. friends help a lot.

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  13. "People always say that you can’t love someone when you’re broken. I wasn’t broken when I met him. I was 100% solid before everything. But now, I’m completely shattered. I wasn’t broken when I met him. I guess I was just hollow."
    ... wala lang.. =) i just like this. parang ako...

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  14. @xtian friends rule. they're always there when you need them and they expect little or nothing in return. anyone convinced that love does not exist need only to look at their friends to see proof.

    @emotionally sloppy tagos ba? hehe

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